I’m sure there’s been at least one time in your life when you’ve heard people having sex, whether it’s been your neighbours, from the hotel room next door, from a tent at a festival, or maybe even from the bathroom stall in an airplane or night club.

Most recently for me was my neighbour upstairs. When her boyfriend comes over, I sometimes hear the bed squeaking and a light moan and groan here and there, but this time was different…

There was no squeaking bed, no grunting from her boyfriend, just a BUZZING sound followed by some incredible no holding back sexual sounding. Woah!

My neighbour was self-pleasuring and it was pure pleasure and bliss for her, trust me I could feel it from the authentic moaning she was making.

So much so that it turned me on!

This was true authentic-sounding, not fake pornstar sounding.

The kind that you know she is having a damn good time!

To unlock and experience deeper states of pleasure, giving yourself full permission to sound authentically is one of the simplest hacks for better sexual pleasure whether you are by yourself or with a partner/s.

Sounding is a powerful way to move sexual energy throughout the body and this can feel a bit scary if you’ve not experienced it before because it is so powerful and can feel overwhelming.

Not only that, sounding can be difficult for some and this can depend on how you were brought up and the messages you received around sexuality.

This will be different for many people, but sounding can actually be quite triggering for people.

Sexual sounds can bring up many different feelings and emotions, from disgust, guilt, and shame to ecstasy, lust, and turn-on.

I invite you to take a listen to the audio below and see what comes up for you…

What did you notice about your response…

Did you try to turn off the audio or turn it down immediately? Did your eyes dart around the room to make sure no one could hear what you were listening to?

Perhaps a memory came up from a certain sexual experience or something from your childhood?

Maybe you felt embarrassed, shy, dirty, or ashamed?

Maybe you were cheering her on with a Fuck YES and felt a wave of turn-on tingles in your nether region!

No matter how you felt about this saucy little sound bite, your response is pure information coming up from within your body and nervous system to let you know there is something within you to be curious about, especially if it brought up a level of discomfort for you.

If your response was more of a discomfort, this little exercise shows just how subtle sexual conditioning can be that we don’t even realize how conditioned we are, and in turn, can determine how we behave and show up in the bedroom.

There is science behind why sounding and moaning are powerful tools for sexual pleasure.

The vagus nerve, which leads from the lowest part of the brainstem, the medulla, down through the throat and vocal cords, then loops all the way down into the pelvic floor, the cervix, and the vagina.

When the vagus nerve is activated through sounding, it creates a deep state of relaxation, especially in your pussy and pelvic floor, and increases your pleasure.

Relaxation = Surrender = Orgasm

So does moaning and sounding during sex or getting intimate with yourself give you better pleasure? That’s a big YES! YES! YES! YES!

Being able to sound is the portal to multiple orgasms and full-body orgasms. If you’re all about unlocking your sexuality and exploring more of the deeper states of pleasure your body is capable of, this is a fabulous tool to explore with!

The Technique…

It’s super simple.

Set aside some me-time, maybe set up some candles, put on your favourite music, and burn some incense or diffuse some essential oils.

Create a space that allows you to feel like a Goddess that is worthy of deep pleasure and bliss.

Get yourself comfortable and begin to touch yourself and get turned on. You can use your hands or maybe even your preferred toy/s.

When you begin to feel turned on and juicy as you pleasure yourself, focus on how that pleasure feels inside your body, and allow yourself to really get present with the pleasurable sensations you feel in your pelvis, vulva, and vagina.

Then start by feeling and being aware of a connection between your throat and pussy.

Whatever sensations you feel within your pussy, allow yourself to express them through your throat with an open mouth and let yourself sound the pleasure as best you can.

When you sound your sexual expression and pleasure, try not to think that you have to sound a certain way, there is no need to perform like a pornstar, (unless that’s true for you) but rather express authentically how you feel.

That’s it!

If sounding your pleasure and turn-on feels a little scary and daunting, especially if you’re not that vocal with your lover, that’s totally ok. Give yourself the space and time to get more comfortable with this practice until the sound flows out of you.

When you feel ready, try it out with your partner.

*ProTip* Experiment by pleasuring yourself while making very little or NO sound at all. See how that pleasure feels in your body and then continue, but this time WITH SOUNDING and MOANING. Notice the difference in the depth of pleasure you feel in your body and where inside of your body you feel it.

It’s a game-changer!

Pleasure is your birthright

Pleasure is such a natural part of being human and rather than try to hide or suppress it, why not vocally express it and celebrate it instead?!

There is so much shame around a woman fully expressing herself vocally in a sexual way, especially living in a sex-negative culture and it can easily trigger some people, maybe it even triggers you.

Next time you hear a woman in deep pleasure moaning and expressing her sexual pleasure, rather than shame her, CELEBRATE her and the epic pleasure she is experiencing in her body!

If you’re curious to explore your sexuality, deeply connect to yourself and experience more pleasure. I’m in the process of creating an online course that will help you discover what your sexual blocks and conditioning are, discover what your sexuality truly means to you, learn how to love every part of your body including the parts you don’t like, and how to feel more confident in the bedroom and experience greater levels of pleasure.

Be the first to know when it’s ready to launch by getting on the waitlist here for my Get Intimate and Elevate Your Pleasure online course.

Pussy is one of the most powerful words in the English language.

It tends to be used in one of 2 ways…

1.To promote sexual desire and lust, not usually in a sexy Goddess way, but in a way that hurts, undignifies, and humiliates a woman because she is seen as a walking piece of meat to pound or to ‘get some’.

Or

2. Pussy is also used as an insult to men. There is no quicker way to rob a man of his masculinity than to call him a pussy, letting him know that his reputation is at stake.  

If we go back in time as young girls, we were taught to call our pussy a flower, cookie, noo-noo, privates, vagina (a clinical term that is physiologically incorrect), and for some of us which is the saddest of all is being taught to call it nothing at all. 

”When we have no common language to describe what is most feminine and scared about us, we have no way to locate and own our power as women, or the fact of where all life comes from.” – Mama Gena

By repressing the importance and sacred power of pussy leaves women feeling less than, undervalued, less inclined to ask for what they want or tone down their sensuality and sexuality.

No one has to teach us this, it is so ingrained in cultural behaviour that words aren’t even required.

We are taught to dial down or turn off our strong emotions, to keep ourselves small, turn off our sensuality, be the good girl, taught that if we dress a certain way or sleep with multiple men that there may be consequences.

This turns off our power, reduces our capacity to experience greater pleasure, keeps us small and fearful of expressing who we truly are. 

Pleasure in all forms is our birthright, our strong emotions are a natural part of the human experience, our sensuality is part of our aliveness, our self-expression shows the world who we are in our authenticity. 

PUSSY IS THE NAME OF THE SOURCE OF OUR FEMININE POWER.

So isn’t it time we start having pussy reverence?

I say fuck yes!

It’s time we turn our power back on and reconnect to our pussies.

Pussy is the connection to your life force, your voice, your inherent radiance and your internal power. 

When you turn your pussy on you are connecting to your life force and divinity.

You don’t need anyone else or anything to turn on the power within pussy, it is all already there, waiting to be ignited.

Turning your power back on and getting intimate with your pussy will change your life in the best possible way. 

If pussy is a word you hate, dislike, or makes you feel uncomfortable, I invite you to look into where your beliefs about pussy came from or what you were taught about pussy from your parents, caregivers, school, church or men in your life.

I invite you to shift the societal and patriarchal conditioning around this word used in a salacious or insulting way to describe the most sacred part of a woman to it being a word used to beautifully express the source of your feminine power.

Allow yourself to speak it until it rolls off your tongue with pure reverence.

Viva la Pussy! Viva la Pussy! Viva la Pussy!